Grooming

Generally, grooming is a phased, gradual process used by perpetrators to sexually exploit children and young people. It can take place over varying periods of time – from a few days to several years. It can also take different forms, and be more or less violent. Although we talk about it as having stages, this doesn’t necessarily mean that it will always develop in the same way. The picture we present is to give you an indication of what could happen.

Typically, grooming involves a number of stages and these are outlined below.

1.    Initial contact.
2.    Befriending.
3.    Exchange of favours.
4.    Control.
5.    Exploitation.

 

A child is a person under the age of 18. Typically, perpetrators target children aged between 11 and 15.

'When I look back what surprises me is the amount of time it took for the perpetrators to get to her (the daughter). She met them (pimps) in January when she went to watch movies at the shopping mall and in a space of 16 weeks they groomed, controlled and exploited her.'

Parent

'Jessica kept coming home with presents, like perfume, jewellery and mobile phones. She wouldn’t tell me where she got them.'

Parent

'She was coming in with bruises and love bites all over her too.'

Parent

'Within three months, I literally didn’t know her anymore. We’d had a really good relationship but she barely spoke to me now.'

Parent